Of course the only kind of “safe sex” is abstinence!
What is Safer Sex?
Safer sex is a precaution taken by sexually active individuals in order to better protect themselves from STDs and HIV.
Some people are unclear about the risks linked to unprotected oral sex and sexual intercourse. Unprotected oral sex carries less risk for the transmission of Std’s than unprotected intercourse or anal sex does, but it’s still possible to contract herpes, genital warts, gonorrhea, syphilis, crabs, lice, hepatitis, HIV or AIDS through oral sex.
Safer sex, such as using a condom, stops the passage of blood, semen and vaginal fluids to the penis and/or vagina. However, it is important that you use them correctly every time!
Safer sex can be fun and you won’t have to worry as much. The best advice is to use safer sex supplies until you and your lover are in a monogamous relationship.
Safer Sex Supplies
include, dental dams to cover the vulva, FDA approved condoms, latex gloves or finger cots for internal finger play and sanitary lubricants to prevent any abrasions. If you love yourself, always remember to protect yourself.
Is Oral Sex really Sex?
It is ridiculous to view oral sex as “not sex.” It’s just as intimate as sexual intercourse, so why would you engage in oral sex with someone you wouldn’t want to have intercourse with? Well, I’ll tell you why. It all started in 1998 when then President Bill Clinton stated publicly, "I did not have sexual relations with that woman" even though he had repeatedly received oral sex from his intern, Monica Lewinsky. Now there is the growing problem of defining what sex really is. In the minds of many teenagers, oral sex isn’t really sex. They seem to think they can stay virgins by engaging in oral sex because their hymen isn’t broken. That’s like saying, you can have anal sex and remain a virgin. Technically, it’s true, but theoretically and emotionally it’s not. Some guys also think they aren’t cheating when they have oral sex with another woman because they can’t get her pregnant. Giving and receiving oral sex is one of the most intimate and erotic acts that can be exchanged within a loving adult relationship and yes, it is sex!
Oral sex isn’t a safe sex activity
Although oral sex is safer than vaginal and anal sex, it is still possible to contract STDs. The bottom line is that oral sex should be avoided if the giver has any sores or bleeding gums in the mouth. Even if he or she has just brushed or flossed their teeth, it can cause microscopic scratches in the lining of the mouth that makes one vulnerable to infection. Because of this, doctors advise the use of condoms for fellatio (flavored condoms are best) and the use of female condoms, dental dams or kitchen plastic wrap) for cunnilingus.
Better to be safe than sorry
Many people are unclear on the risks associated with oral sex. Unprotected oral sex carries a lesser risk for the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) than unprotected intercourse or anal penetration, but there’s still a risk for both the giver and the receiver of oral sex. First let’s look at how to avoid these contagious STD’s by practicing safer sex.
Safer Sex Supplies
If you love yourself, you must protect yourself. Ladies, there’s no reason why you can’t enjoy the eroticism of oral sex and practice safer sex at the same time. Even if you’re in a monogamous relationship, you’ll want to have some of the safer sex supplies around to help you add more pleasure and spontaneity to your oral sex adventures.
Reality Condoms are the most well known, but they recently changed their name to FC Female Condoms. Femidom is another brand of female condoms. Most female condoms work the same way. They’re made of polyurethane (stronger than latex), are hypo-allergenic, heat conductive, and odorless. They are a soft, loose-fitting sheath specifically designed to protect women from pregnancy and STDs by lining the inside of her vagina. Read the instructions before inserting it because if you don’t insert it correctly, it’s like not using protection at all. The female condom has to go deep inside the vagina and over the cervix.
Aptly named because they are used by dentists to isolate a tooth. Dental dams come in various sizes and flavors. Made of ultra thin latex, these square shaped barriers allow good sensations for oral sex. Sheer Glyde Dams are FDA approved for protection against STDs for cunnilingus and rimming. The best way to use a dam is for the giver to mark the “mouth” side of the dam with a marker so that they knows which side to lick, then apply a couple of drops of lubricant on the other side, press the dam against her vulva with two hands and enjoy.
Latex Gloves and Finger Cots
Good oral sex involves the hands as well as the mouth. There’s nothing more exciting than orally pleasing a woman’s clitoris and fingering her vagina or anus simultaneously. By using latex gloves and or finger cots (think of them as mini condoms for your fingers) you can increase erotic sensations and protect the receiver from jagged fingernails, cuts, germs or viral STDs such as herpes, which can be spread by skin-to-skin contact.
We all know, “wetter is better.” But, which lube is best? It can be very confusing because there are so many to choose from including, odorless, tasteless, water soluble lubricants with a lightconsistency and without Nonoxynol-9 spermicide. Here are some favorites: System JO H20, Wet Light, Astroglide, ForePlay Personal Gel, Aqua Lube, Sensual Organics and Probe Silky Light.